End of marriage or not? serious input wanted?

Is she willing to try marriage counseling? It takes two to make a relationship work. Perhaps a separation may be the answer, in order for her to decide what she really wants. The ex would be the least of my worries. Your wife is the key and she's the one you need to focus all of your energies on. I'm so sorry to hear of your marital discord. It happens in every marriage and you can get beyond it. It just takes, time and patience. You may seek counseling for yourself in order to gain support and guidance.